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‘An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.  The thoughts of the righteous are just; the counsels of the wicked are deceitful.  The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the mouth of the upright delivers them.  The wicked are overthrown and are no more, but the house of the righteous will stand.’ Proverbs 12:4-7

The truth and confrontation of scripture is stronger than anything we can imagine at times!  Will I really bring rottenness to my husband’s bones??  Lord, help me to be upright and be delivered from myself!  Lord please allow my house to stand and bring you glory.

I think at times we take our job as Moms a little too lightly, but scripture obviously does not, so with these thoughts in mind, we thought it would be good to respond to some emails I received from my last blog from Mommies wanting more details and insight on how to order their lives in a way that would give them more time with their husbands and less chaos on the home front.  It seems sometimes the high ideals of scripture turn into very practical truths on how we can order our lives, so that our homes will stand and we truly can be a crown for our husbands!

TIP 1. 

Set a routine for your day; even write it down in the beginning.  Don't just let your day happen to you haphazardly, you take time with the Lord, you choose wake up time, sleep times, play times, cleaning house time etc.  Just like any job, this is your job and you are the boss, so if you 'just let it happen' it will always be chaos.  You set the structure, tone and pace of your day.  Cut back on activities or play dates so you have more time for housework or preparing meals, a man coming into a chaotic home doesn't find rest, so it's important to have peace in the home and you CAN change that.

TIP 2.

If you’re a Mom with a new little one, you will need to plan sleep training for baby.  It feels ruthless in the beginning but she needs to be fed, bathed, loved and told even now, it's time to SLEEP, and then put her down.  If a night--light helps or a favourite teddy, fine, but then don't go back in when the screaming starts...this is very hard...but it trains her to calm herself and just jolly well sleep!! You can't cave in either, but in the end, she'll realize all that crying isn't getting her anywhere, will actually wear herself out and sleep like a baby as they say!  Remember, you have to train yourself as much as baby, you naturally want to help or intervene, but in the long run, when you are exhausted from lack of sleep, you will not be able to function properly in any sphere of your life.  Happy training.... :)

TIP 3. 

Plan date times for you and your man.  Work with other friends to swop baby-sitting so you can all have turns to go out for a movie or meal or whatever.  Just time away for both of you gives new perspective and you actually like those kiddies when you come home again!

TIP 4. 

Plan fun times together for all of you.  Might just be a walk around the block, a trip to the park, a picnic somewhere, but start building fun and memories into your children’s lives now.  It will build on the fact that in the end life SHOULD BE FUN, not just drudgery and confusion!

TIP 5.

And the biggest one, PRAY for wisdom and God will show you the way forward.  They are his children, also his husband that he gave you, so he knows what's best for them, even better than you do.

Also, you must read the book ‘Fascinating Womanhood’ by Helen Andelin, that book is like a textbook for a good marriage.  I'm reading it now and you can't believe how it's helping me, even after 29 yrs!!

You go girls!! 

You can do it and bring glory to God through following his wisdom for your life.  Don’t just let life ‘happen’ to you; don’t be like the wicked in Proverbs and be overthrown; when you see those overwhelming waves coming for you, jump on and ride them to victory rather than letting them drown you!!