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It seems lately we’ve been on the topic of children, parenting and family life.  Those are great topics to think about. Are we doing it well?  Where could I improve, what are right priorities and am I following God’s best for my life as a mother?

More than a ‘blog’ today, I feel I have a word from the Lord for perhaps one specific lady, though I hope many will take time to ponder on, what I feel in my heart.

It is a definite problem in many homes, the fact that the children’s lives, activities and needs take priority over the husband’s.  When the children want something new, mother assumes it will just have to happen somehow, regardless of budget constraints.  When there is a small cry in the night, mother jumps out of bed in an instant and is gone to assist.  Father is barely greeted at the door, as mother rushes out to the children’s activities that are booked, paid for and cannot be missed!!  

He is the one that always has to ‘understand’ because after all, he is an adult and able to handle being put on the back burner.  He has to understand that it is his responsibility to foot the bill for a myriad of activities, from his one income.  He has to realize that our dear children NEED these things to fit into the society we live in; we don’t want our children to have any disadvantage whatsoever.  Daddy must wait because Mommy is so pre-occupied and taken with her role as ‘the mother’.

Short of calling this sin, I will call it foolish on the part of mother!  Who is the one who loved her and gave her these dear children?  Who is it that married her and said he firstly wanted to care for her, as his wife?  When one day, the darlings that have occupied your every waking moment have left the nest, who will be left to help you walk through that empty nest syndrome??  Probably dear ol’ Dad, you know that guy that was left on the back burner, playing second fiddle all those years!

Think of the years of joy-building you are missing by not giving your man the priority, love and attention he deserves!  Running in circles after whining children will only perpetuate selfishness and self-centeredness in adulthood. Please ladies, use wisdom in what and how much you do for your children, we really can create monsters in our ‘need to be needed’!!!

Tip of the day:  From a young age, put the plastic cereal bowls at child-height, cereal, spoons, and milk in smaller containers if necessary, so they can start feeding themselves, especially on Saturday mornings!!  Let them take up small responsibilities, which show that Daddy and Mommy having a longer rest together on a Saturday morning is a GOOD thing!

SHOW THEM, that that are not the center of your universe or anyone else’s by showing them that Daddy has first priority in your heart. (Don’t allow them to interrupt your conversation at the dinner table, they must wait their turn until Daddy and Mommy have finished talking.) There is actually MORE security in that for them.  When Dad and Mom’s marriage is strong, they feel that security and love and are more at peace, even if they have to tend to themselves a bit more.  It doesn’t hurt them; it’s actually good for them.

Take to heart these words from Proverbs 31:10-11:

“An excellent wife who can find?  She is far more precious than jewels.  The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.”

Let your husband have full confidence in your love for him, and when ‘he has no lack of gain’, neither will you or your children!!